There is so much goodness in others. The way someone solves a problem finds time to do everything they desire, how people keep their cool in stressful situations, and even how they communicate with others and themselves.
Here’s another cool thing – if someone else does something, you can do it too.
NLP is based on modeling – that is studying how something or someone works. By observation, association, and understanding the underlying patterns of thought, behaviour, emotions, and beliefs – you can identify and learn how you can do what they do.
For example, maybe you admire how someone at work has such an easy ability to talk to just about anyone and make a strong connection quickly. You could model that. NLP even has a tool or strategy that you can use to understand others and get their model.
In general, if you have time to actually sit with another person and have a conversation, you can easily identify their values, beliefs, internal dialogue, physiology, and unconscious filters they use when doing what you want to model. You can then take what fits you and bring it into your life. If you don’t have the ability to be with someone in real life (maybe you want to model Oprah, but you don’t know Oprah), you could use the same tool and strategy to identify your perceptions of what she does on a mind or psychological basis, either will work.
We like to identify people who have redeeming traits and qualities that we would like to have ourselves or that we would like to share with our students and we ask to interview them and model them. Ultimately, there is no bigger sense of flattery than being asked to be modelled!
Who do you want to model?
